Neal Black

Categories: Leadership

Related Initiatives: General, Vineyard Emerge

What if, as a leader, you didn't have to have all the answers but could help people own their own action plan? Here is how to do this by asking powerful questions.
In the above video, learn what coaching is, plus watch a brief coaching demo.
Why Connect with a Coach
In the Vineyard we value relationships and growing together. Coaching is about helping others learn, do critical thinking together, and move forward with a plan. Keith Webb, author of The Coach Model gives his definition of coaching from a clearly Christian perspective: "Coaching is an ongoing intentional conversation that empowers a person or group to fully live out God's calling" (Keith Webb p. 13 The Coach Model).

Coaches help you:

  • Think, by asking powerful questions, making observations, and objectively pointing out what you may be missing
  • Uncover your limiting beliefs that might be keeping you stuck
  • Determine next steps on a growth pathway so you own your own action plan, enabling you to become more of who God created you to be (Ephesians 1:4,5; 2:10)
A coach can be the help you need in this season to move you forward. Often you connect with a coach for a limited time of a few months, then, when needed, you re-engage.
What to Look for in a Coach
There seems to be coaches everywhere and it can get confusing as to who you should select as your coach. Here are some helpful things to think about when choosing a coach who is best for your needs:

Is it a coach you need?

It can get confusing between coaching, mentoring and counseling. A mentor is someone usually who has experienced what you have, is further down the road, and provides advice. A counselor is someone who focuses on the past to help you heal from the traumas you face. A coach focuses on the future and draws out the solutions from you to enable you to move forward with an action plan.

What type of coach are you needing?

A career coach, leadership coach, relationship coach, business coach or a health coach?

What are their qualifications?

Are they accredited through the International Coaching Federation (ICF)? Ask the coach for the training they completed so you can check into it later. Check out their bios. Are they connected to any other coaching organizations? Are there any reviews?
Once you have a coach in mind, connect with them. Most coaches offer a free consultation. Then ask the following questions:

What style of coaching do they use?

Ask them what their coaching session looks like and have the talk about the process. In The Coach Model for Christian Leaders by Keith Webb, the process follows the word COACH: Connect, Outcomes, Awareness, Course and Highlights. Ask what assessments they use, if any.

What is the cost?

Coaches charge between $50 to $500 per session depending on expertise and clients. They might also charge by the month such as 2 sessions for $300, plus brief connections between sessions. Ask if there are additional fees for assessments or other resources.